Episodes
Wednesday Feb 26, 2020
S002E011 Catching up with Erin Davis
Wednesday Feb 26, 2020
Wednesday Feb 26, 2020
Shane welcomes the legendary Erin Davis to Shower for the Soul. The two chat about their love for radio and share stories of grief and how they used radio to get over loss. Erin talks about being sober for just under one year and how her book, Mourning has Broken, helped her through the sudden passing of her daughter.
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Wednesday Feb 19, 2020
S002E010 Understanding Miss Americana
Wednesday Feb 19, 2020
Wednesday Feb 19, 2020
This week on the show, Shane shares his thoughts on the Netflix documentary, Taylor Swift: Miss Americana. Shane explains why it's important to understand the female brain in order for all of us to take care of our mental health. We also cover why it's imperative for guys to talk to each other about their feelings. And another tale about Liberty and Shane in Shane's Journal.
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Wednesday Feb 12, 2020
S002E009 Second Season Stigma
Wednesday Feb 12, 2020
Wednesday Feb 12, 2020
And we're back....
On the season premier episode of Shower for the Soul, Shane catches us up on what exactly happened that night in December when a walk-in doctor directed him to the ER. We take an honest approach to the stigma of getting therapy. Shane shares his experiences and where he's currently going to. Also, a brand new feature debuts where Shane reads his old journal entries that he penned on his mysteriously hidden old Tumblr page.
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Wednesday Dec 11, 2019
E008S001 An episode all about healing
Wednesday Dec 11, 2019
Wednesday Dec 11, 2019
On this episode of Shower of the Soul, Shane revisits the topics we tackled this season but this time - Shane's talking about the healing aspect. Shane talks about if getting his two tattoos helped in the healing process, if he has recovered from anxiety and if he still has body image problems.
Episode length - 11:31
Wednesday Dec 04, 2019
EP007S001 - How wrestling saved my life
Wednesday Dec 04, 2019
Wednesday Dec 04, 2019
This week Shane shares his love for wrestling and how it being such a constant in his life, helped him over the years to stay sane. Speaking of wrestling, Shane gives his two-cents on the Ranallo/Graves situation that went down last week. Cory Chadwick of the Personal Greatness Project joins us. We talk about mental health in today's society and in sports. It's a hard hitting, action packed, body checking type of episode.
Episode length - 35.30
Wednesday Nov 27, 2019
E006S001 The two sides of social media
Wednesday Nov 27, 2019
Wednesday Nov 27, 2019
On this weeks show, Shane delves right in and talks about the good and bad parts of social media. Shane shares his experience with it and reveals disturbing numbers in terms of which social platforms cause the most anxiety.
Show length: 12.22
Wednesday Nov 20, 2019
E005D001 Mind, body & Soul
Wednesday Nov 20, 2019
Wednesday Nov 20, 2019
This week Shane tackles body confidence. Shane shares what he has been battling since birth and his views on being short. To kick off the show, Shane lets us know his thoughts on the Don Cherry debacle.
Episode length: 13:07
Wednesday Nov 13, 2019
E004S001 - The one about friendship
Wednesday Nov 13, 2019
Wednesday Nov 13, 2019
This week Shane takes a look at friendships. The bad, toxic ones and the ones that we all should hold close to our hearts. Shane discuss how to spot a toxic person in our lives and how to cut the friendship cord.
Episode length: 14:44
Friendship: How to spot a toxic one
Like how it's a tough to come by a good friend, it's tough to spot a toxic one. They start off really nice and they often convince you that they are not the problem. This is where they danger lays. They have a way of making their friend feel inferior, invisible, anxious, and that they are a bad person, thus, eroding a person's sense of self and compromising their mental health.
However, the non-toxic individual should not change their good nature or the tendency to be self-reflective and accountable. These are admirable qualities. By implementing six techniques, they can neutralize the toxicity without having to change who they are or sever the friendship. I's necessary to decipher whether a friend is in the toxic zone.
Your friendship is in the toxic zone if:
- Make comments that are confusing and that sting. These comments swim in a person’s head, causing self-doubt and anxiety.
- He or she ignores their friend’s feelings and promotes their own.
- If the non-toxic friend asserts themselves in the friendship, the toxic friend frames them as dramatic or over sensitive.
- Occasionally the toxic friend is nice in order to deter their friend from suspecting they are toxic. The toxic friend is especially nice when other people are watching.
- Toxic characters project like crazy. Chances are they have already accused their friend or others of being toxic.
- Frequently they play the victim, asserting they have a more difficult plight than anyone else.
- They triangulate – meaning if there is a mutual friend they begin to align that friend with themselves and exclude the non-toxic friend.
- Rarely do they comment on their friend’s successes or achievements, but they readily highlight their own.
- Often they ignore or exclude their friend when they are with mutual friends.
- They indirectly sabotage their friend by drawing them into drama that deters them from pursuing their goals.
How to neutralize a toxic friendship
- Get space, emotionally. Refrain from telling the toxic friend anything personal. Avoid talking about feelings, issues, hopes, and dreams. The toxic person cannot sabotage without this information. Also, do not go to the toxic person in need of help with something. Finally, steer clear of their drama with other people. Simply empathize with their feelings and politely excuse yourself from the conversation.
- Be diplomatic. Do not make it evident that emotional space is the goal. Say things like, “I'd love to talk, but I'm knee deep in a work project. I'll call you next week.” It's okay to be slightly disingenuous in order to protect yourself and salvage the friendship.
- Pursue activities and friendships independent of the toxic friend. Hitch your wagon to a friend with healthier interpersonal capacities. Make friends with an empath. Find a passion or hobby independent of the toxic friend.
- It's alright to have fun with the toxic friend. Have some laughs and talk about impersonal things like the Cubs, HGTV, or the weather. Go out and dance or see a movie.
- Do mind and body work. A toxic individual can impact your sense-of-self. One way to recover is to do mind and body work, such as yoga, tai chi, and martial arts.
- Laughter is good medicine. A toxic friend can zap your ability to laugh. Find it again. Be silly. Go to a comedy club. Watch funny movies.
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Handling a toxic friendship is an essential skill in today's world. Identifying one is the first step. Grabbing enough emotional space to be safe from a toxic person's manipulations is key. Have fun, but don't get too chummy.
Wednesday Nov 06, 2019
E003S001 - That INKredible Tattoo
Wednesday Nov 06, 2019
Wednesday Nov 06, 2019
That INKredible Tattoo
Shane shares the story of his two tattoos and how they have become an important part of his mental health recovery. He also tackles how tattoos have become a popular way to remind yourself that you've survived the battle. Tattoos have become a very important part of the healing process. Shane tells us why.
As promised, here are my tattoos
I said I'll post my tattoos for you. Here they are. The headphone with microphone is my first born. I got it on February 1st 2014. The second, I received in 2018. As I shared with you on the show, they both have their own rightful spot in my heart and soul.
Wednesday Oct 30, 2019
Believing your Swag
Wednesday Oct 30, 2019
Wednesday Oct 30, 2019
This week Shane covers the long road he took to finally find his self-worth. It's a bumpy ride for most people as we all have this preset in our mind that we're not as good as we should be. This bouncy train of thought causes accidents. Shane shares how he was able to find the safe road, which ultimately got him to his destination of making this very podcast.
Episode length: 16.57